Doesn't everyone know someone like this? "Homewrecker": for those who don't no, is someone would continue to flirt and confess feelings to someone who is at that time in a relationship. These people, clearly selfish, would obviously be the kind of person in a relationship to put "me" or "I" before "we" or "you". The "homewrecker", becoming more and more common, are showing up everywhere. Case and point, this season ending of the "Bachelor". We have a few examples from this.

1. The man is now thinking of which girl to pick in the privacy of a home...while there; the women who dumped him for another man shows up, says things didn't work with the other guy and that she still has feelings for him. HOMEWREKER.

2. The man picks the girl he wants to be with...while with his new soon to be wife, the other girl stays in contact with the man....and in the end "steals" him from the other girls thus getting the man. HOMEWREKER.

Which brings me to something. Is there a such thing as being a conscious homewrecker and an unconscious homewrecker? (And I don't mean alive and dead) Personally, I feel this is true; but should NEVER be used as an excuse. Because its a horrible one. Anyhow. A conscious homewrecker would be aware of their actions. Making conscious choices as to what their next "move" or "plan" may be. An unconscious homewrecker is simply someone who is overruled be their emotions. This is someone who sometimes doesn't realize how they are acting towards someone they feel affection to; unconsciously being flirtatious for example. These actions can, and usually do end relationships. When someone in a relationship begins to feel something from someone new, its a rush; its like the, "Sex and The City" reference, the "za za zu". The butterflies you feel when you begin to have a spark with someone. Sometimes, like the unconscious homewrecker, the person in the relationship is overruled my emotion, or just plain lust. But, there can also be an upside to homewreckers. This coming from personal experience. A homewrecker can also make your bond with your partner stronger. When someone who isn't my boyfriend starts calling me pretty and sexy; its nice and all, but it doesn't feel quite right. I really only like it when he says those things. You begin to aline what matters more to you. Lusting for someone then...god knows what would happen after; or staying in your relationship with someone to trust and love.

The other end. Aka: your partner knows/ is still friends with a HUGE homewrecker. How does that make them feel? Like it does to you, it can do one of two things to your partner.

1. Make them realize how crazy they are for you, because if someone came between that it would be upsetting.

or

2. Make them realize its not that big of a deal and your not as serious as you though you were. (ouch)

All and all; I feel that this, rather annoying as it is, is mirly unavoidable. People always want what they can't have right?